To unfriend or not to unfriend?

Scenario: So you've been dumped and ur stalking his Facebook account. Every update slaps u in the face. Every photo of him moving on after 2 months and enjoying his life kicks u in the teeth. Pictures of him and a new girl makes u delirious with jealousy. Then suddenly, every photo of you is deleted from his album, u were deleted callously from his life... And then the next day, after u kindly untagged every of his photos so that his new gf and him doesn't see ur face on his photos log, u find that u have been UNFRIENDED! U and all your friends he added.

Trust me, every instinct wanted to delete him from Facebook after he deleted my photos. I kept him there because I didn't want to be petty and I really did want to continue being friends. Well no need to worry about that now. So what exactly is the Facebook etiquette when it comes to exes? I don't deny that he must have had a reason for deleting me. Let me name a few

1. His new chick could be just a jealous girl and can't stand his ex being on his Facebook
2. My post on going to Brazil for Mardi Gras may have caused him such intense feelings that he just HAD to delete me
   
3. He's stalking me and missing me too much
4. He's a miserable old goat
5. He's moved on and I'm non-existant in his life anymore
6. His Facebook got hacked and miraculously me and my friends have been deleted
7. He got abducted by friendly relatives and they did an anal probe on him and forced him to delete me

But whatever it is, I'm already a thing of the past and isn't it better now? No more stalking for me. I won't see his miserable, hypocritical face. I won't see her smiling happily into the camera thinking that she caught the man of the lifetime. Good luck when he controls ur life and accuses u of flirting with the world darling! No more pain looking at him moving on anymore. What's not to be happy about!? I got out of a fucked relationship, I should be popping champagne and calling for a parade and declare 9 June a National holiday! 


So he deleted me and my friends off his Facebook friends, so what? It made him look like a sad petty bastard since he dumped me in the first place with a text 'It's over'.  I have nothing to lose. He only owed me empty promises. I wasn't dependent on him for anything. I don't owe him anything. It's not the end of the world. In fact, I relish at the thought of moving on to a much better time with my new date, TB. Try guessing what TB means ;). 

Why waste time thinking why, what did I do wrong? Why waste time on someone who has absolute no respect for you? Who was in love with a shallow dream? Who made your 29th birthday lonely and just simply shit? Why waste time on someone who told you he was going marry u one day then dump u the next day cos of a quarrel over World of Warcraft. Ha ha!


J unfriended me on Facebook. Big deal. He caused me much more hurt in real, I don't need constant reminders of him in the virtual world as well. Hey I already uninstalled World of Warcraft because of him! (I healed your fucking undead rogue ass and sacrificed myself to save ur miserable virtual life!) I'm glad he did the dirty deed too. He has just confirmed to us all how small of a person he is. 


I would have understood if he had kindly just sent me a little short message why he did it. After all, I WAS someone u wanted to be with and loved before. Didn't ur mother teach you manners? Maybe not, I mean even someone so racist can teach something of value to her children. Oh and btw, thanks for 'defending' me when ur mom racially blasts me. Thanks for sitting there quietly listening then telling me afterwards.


These books helped me to look at my future in a more positive way:

It's Called Breakup Because It's Broken is a freaking fantastic book. It's a MUST have for all girls who, like me, need help in moving on.